In September 2024, Taraki’s Punjabi Women’s Forum reunited to discuss Social Media. You can read a summary of the discussion here.
After a summer break, Taraki's Punjabi Women's Forum met in September met to discuss Navigating Social Media. The group opened with the origins of social media, the early days of social media, attendees discussed how platforms served as vibrant spaces for self-expression and community engagement. They were about sharing our thoughts, connecting with friends, and sparking conversations. Fast forward to today, and the narrative has shifted to what often feels like a curated highlight reel. DMs have replaced group chats, and the pressure to showcase our "best selves" can be overwhelming.
Attendees discussed a shift in purpose of social media, we find ourselves inundated with stories and posts from a mix of acquaintances and influencers. The intimacy has faded, leaving behind a sense of pressure to conform to the curated lives we see online. This shift often leads to feelings of inadequacy, especially when we compare our everyday realities to the highlight reels of others. While social media can inspire us by showcasing the achievements of role models, it can also become a double-edged sword. The temptation to compare ourselves to friends with seemingly perfect lives can breed discontent. It’s crucial, then, to remember that what we see online is often far from the complete picture.
The attendees and facilitators offered advice to one another regarding taking charge of our social media experience. This means actively choosing the content we consume and how we engage with it. Social media can be a powerful tool for inspiration, but it should not feel like a weight on our shoulders. It’s about going at our own pace while staying connected to the people and ideas that uplift us. Unfortunately, the pressure to build a personal brand can dilute authenticity. Many users share only their highlights, fostering an environment where vulnerability is rare. The allure of influencers can create unrealistic expectations—making us believe that their lives are attainable when, in reality, they are often meticulously curated.
Despite these challenges, social media can foster genuine connections. Attendees mentioned discovering authentic friendships online, helping to build supportive communities. This is especially true for marginalised groups, such as queer South Asians, who have found safe spaces to share their experiences and journeys. Social media can be a mirror reflecting our struggles and triumphs, but it’s vital that we control what we see.
We have the power to curate our feeds and interactions. Ask yourself: How does this content make me feel? Is it enriching my life or adding to my stress? By being intentional about our online presence, we can shift our experience from passive scrolling to meaningful engagement. To protect our mental health, we must establish boundaries around our social media use. Consider setting time limits for your daily scrolling, or even taking detox breaks from your phone altogether. Reflect on the value of your time online—are you gaining something meaningful, or are you just filling time? Mute or restrict accounts that don’t serve you; it’s okay to set boundaries that preserve your mental well-being.
Finally, attendees discussed social media’s addictive nature. The “doom scrolling” can easily lead us into cycles of comparison and discontent. It’s crucial to recognise when our online habits start to negatively impact our mental health. Sometimes, we may need to overindulge in social media to realise we need to set firmer boundaries and may be using it as a means to escape from life’s bigger problems. Remember, your online presence is a reflection of your authentic self. When you show vulnerability, you invite others to do the same, fostering a more supportive environment. This is particularly important in cultures where reputation often takes precedence over authenticity, such as in Punjabi communities. Embracing our imperfections can challenge stigmas and encourage deeper connections.
The group concluded that your relationship with social media will continue to evolve. It can serve as a platform for awareness, connection, and inspiration—but it’s essential to check in with yourself regularly. Life is complex, and our online personas often reflect a simplified version of reality. Be mindful of how much weight you give to others’ opinions; you have the autonomy to curate your life. Navigating the complexities of social media can be challenging, but it’s also an opportunity for growth and connection. By being intentional about our online interactions, setting boundaries, and embracing authenticity, we can transform our social media experience from a source of pressure to a space of inspiration and community. Remember, you’re in control of your narrative—choose wisely and prioritise your wellbeing.